Amy Winehouse had it right, when she sang, "For you, I was a flame. Love...is a losing game".
I feel like writing about things, helps. I've just broken things off with a guy who seemed to be everything I was looking for, except for the commitment. No saying "I love you", no calling me his girlfriend, or going to family events with me. It's been rough, but at this point in the game, I know when to detach, and when enough is enough. But it's so hard to tell - guys come in all shades of difficulty - from the psychopath, to the emotionally unavailable.
This last one was emotionally unavailable. I don't think it makes him a bad person. I don't think he asked to be this way. But I've realized to walk away, when it's a problem that I've neither created nor have the ability to fix.
This particular guy had been wounded deeply, by his wife who divorced him. Maybe someday, he'll be able to put himself out there again and be vulnerable. But I don't expect to be the one to make it happen.
So it sucks, but lesson learned. Better that, than fighting a losing battle against the tide.